Being a working mom is TOUGH!
It’s the one thing that keeps me wishing for something different. I feel like I spend so much time away from my kids. I drop my daughter off at 630 in the morning and don’t get home until around 6 pm. So, during the week, I have roughly 4 hours a day to see my kids. I want to MAXIMIZE that time.
Good Lord I am tired.
When I get off of work I am practically a walking zombie. Seriously, If I could just come home and go to bed my body would be completely satisfied. Unfortunately, things need to get done so that’s not possible.
The mom guilt is REAL!
I can honestly say I feel guilty every single day. If I was in traffic too long, totally not my fault. but GUILTY… If I can’t watch my kids do something funny because I, “just need one minute, I’m almost done dinner”.. that’s me, guilty! I just feel guilty about everything.
I have made it my goal in life..
To make more time for my kids. I already am losing out on hours and hours without them. I don’t want them to grow up and say, “oh, my mom was never home, she worked all the time”. That is also the reason I am at a cross roads professionally. I would love to earn more money, get promoted but, with that comes more time away. I don’t think I want to sacrifice that. Then I wonder if we could do more if I worked harder a few more years.
Life has so many unknowns. I could sit here all day and say what if. Instead, I will tell you what I do to maximize my time with my kids. Until I can walk into work and say I have decided to stay at home with my kids(if that is ever even possible) I need to fight hard for them. So, what do I do to maximize my time?
School work completed when they first get home.
If there is a question and they need help, I ask them to save it for me. Let me do my part and help you. In a perfect world I would wave my kids off the bus. Be prepared with celery and peanut butter sticks. Help them with everything because dinner is already in the crock pot and laundry was folded this morning. Not my reality! So, I ask them to do it first and save me for the one offs. This saves us hours!
My son helps with weekly chores.
I ask him for help like taking dirty clothes to the laundry room and doing dishes. He is so awesome he usually does even more but time I get home. How great is that.
Make enough dinners for leftovers
When I crock pot or cook, I like to make extras. That way, I don’t have to cook every single night. This saves so much time. I have tried doing meal preps but haven’t mastered it yet, so I wont put too much into that but if you can give it a try.
Cook easy things
If I want to get fancy I save it for the weekend. This is when I have all day to hang out with my munchkins. I have no problem making a big dinner on Saturday or Sunday. Oh, and I usually do pizza on Fridays (even easier).
Stay off my phone
Not because my daughter takes it from me. ok, that could be part of it. No seriously I make a big effort to not play on my phone or scroll through social media until it’s time to lay down. Then I do so for about 30-45 minutes and put it away. Too many times have I been caught up late at night on my phone wondering where I time went. I am exhausted after working and commuting all day. I need my mental health sleep (what we use to call beauty sleep).
Make nightly tasks fun
We make bath time fun, we walk the dog together and run around the neighbor. When my husband does the walks with kids they catch frogs (not my thing). But making the things you must do fun is what it’s all about.
That is my tips that I use to maximize the little 4 hours I have with my kids. Boo! Not enough!! Boo! I want to win the lottery and never work again. Because that isn’t realistic I will do this.
Keep in mind, not every day works perfectly. In fact, most days do not. But I try my best and that’s all your kids expect from you. 😊 😊